Well if you weren't so far away I'd buy you a beer, and I totally agree, dating sucks!

A beautiful woman that makes you feel like you have a huge rainbow of sunshine in your heart everytime you are with her. Is that too much for a man to ask?

Oh wait! I have to love and respect her above all others? I need to look past the surface and find one who is COMPATIBLE? WHOA man!
Rules! There's friggin rules! and We both have to obey them.... right? ..what's that mean "subject to interpretation"?

Having lived in New Orleans for about 7 years (minus my Ft. Worth, Katrina sabatical for 16 months,dating is quite the unique situation. I live next to the French Quarter; where airplanes full of beautiful women are delivered to our doorsteps every day. (ok... they land at the airport and let them commute in,, it might get really messy if they just dropped them off as they flew over) ANYHOO... things I have learned from 13 years marrage and 11 years being single/dating is that .. it can get damned expensive if you don't find a keeper...lol.

ALSO... take a look at yourself.. I see that you are a beautiful woman with a great smile. The people around seem to love your company.... be patient grasshopper. Count yourself lucky; those are some superficial men looking for a young hotty to take their money. They wouldn't/couldn't show you the love and passion you deserve.

See ya on the playa or your next visit to New Orleans... just bring a parachute... much quicker than the commute from the airport.

Tis true.

For some reason old men love me and I can't seem to turn the head of someone more reasonably aged. I think we need to let all unattached 40-something men know that women in their 30's+ are in their prime. Go after them! And tell your sons and nephews to give me a call.
I'm not one to say no to a free drink sent by the bald guy in a leather coat, but come on... really? What do you think is going to happen?
Can't help being a cynic but isn't New York supposed to be the epi-center for dating, no matter what your age? Anyone know where all the young new Bob Dylans, Pete Seegers, and John Lennon's are? Has New York lost its youthful artistic charm?

yeah it sucks LOL how are you? I just joined this tribe.. i think and i saw a post from you so I thought I'd uh er harass ya some. how are ya? yeah and it's really hard when ya hit the 50m+ even if yer cool> I jus bemember on our first quasi (date ) on the playa .. um you got popped, and on our second quasi date you were toasted and I got to high on acid ( which was good but .. I got losted gettin water ) and you were gone when i found my way back. but any wayz, i hope to see ya there this year and we can talk about it. Or jus hang as buds like we should. crap i even sent ya valentines, Ya stilol in joshua tree.. the band.. etc... me i'm a gypsy now livin in my motor home but it's a long and funny story accoding to george but I gots my bm tic so i'll maybe see ya there....d

I agree that it sucks.... I'm in riverside, and get to SD often... There is not a lot of ways to meet people out where I am. Most women my age (30s) never give me a second glance. When I was dating a 20 something, at least we could go out and party together. I try very hard to not be "the creepy old guy". i'm very young at heart, never had kids. I would really enjoy some good company, but the women in their 30s i meet, all want a guy thats got a house and is already "settled down". heck I'm not even sure what I would do with a woman my age. I need some one thats up for adventure, that can be spontaneous thats not afraid to still go out and LIVE. I never married, I don't seem to relate to some of the divorced women my age. I feel I have a lot to offer a woman for companionship but never get a chance to... I guess i'm not what 30 something women are looking for... Now a days... age is more of a number that the "normal" world is all hung up on. If people can relate and have things in common, then who cares if one is 20 something, and the other is not... I guess I just have not crossed paths with a woman my age doing the things I do. perhaps some day that will change. Any women out there need a fun guy that enjoys taking care of her and spending fun adventures together?

I Am Getting Old!

I was walking in the French Quarter last night when I saw a young girl of maybe 20 years old flashing a 50+ year old man. Dude; I got kids as old as her and your way the fuck older than me... You should be ashamed!

makes you want to have a big ink stamp the says "PERV" in big red letters and stamp their face with it.

ok.. i'm done venting...

Hah...Dating sucks...so I don't, rather I just go out and have a good time, and I find that meeting people...friends...is realy what its all about. Age is just a number if one is not 'needy'. I expended half my life alone 'cause I was always searching for the 'right-one'...full of assumptions, just a big fairy-tale all in my mind. These days, I go to the dance halls, I attire myself in my black pyr-et shirt, white scarf on my right-arm, red around my kneck..and dance my phukn ass off, and some times I play with my light sticks.... I don't hit on folks on the dance floor, they wanna hook-up, chat wit me, hangout, fine, let'm, they know where I am. Best way to become good friends is to become friends first....Its all about sharing, its about no presumptions, its about gentleness..sounds corny, its about Love.

Love - tron

I think that too often than not, we base our emotional needs for intimacy from our fears of being alone. It's true when they say You really need to get to know yourself in order to learn what it is you really want. Too many times people (me being one of them) place a pretty general "ideal' for qualities in a prospective partner, trust that the Universe is looking out for our best interests, and then find that that ideal really wasn't all that compatible after all, because somewhere "in there" we justify settling because in the real world no-one is "perfect". And it's true, no one is "perfect", but each and every one of us need to truly look deep inside, get to know what we want and need in our relationships and for ourselves to feel whole, and then go about asking for that from ourselves. Maybe we really don't know what it is we really want in the first place? Too confusing! Where to start?

It's about making a conscious effort of breaking dysfunctional patterns and NOT settling for less than your true heart's desires. And maybe not having such high expectations that a date needs to lead to a romantic relationship in the first place. Even if it's easy to get a date for some, it takes work to create a long term friendship.

As for myself, I'm trying to figure all of this out too. How do I know what I REALLY want? How do I go about not repeating old patterns, making poor choices, listening to those damned RED FLAGS, and be content with the MEANTIME? I don't like dating for that reason alone; people having too high expectations, and egos feeling rejected if their interest is not reciprocated, instead of just relaxing, having fun, and leave those f-n expectations behind.

I figure the best start is to BE REAL. Be yourself. The true self always shines through eventually, and if you're not honest with yourself, you certainly won't get what it is you really want.

Has anyone tried making a "Love List"? (As seen on Oprah) It's a magic list of all the qualities that you want in a partner, and the claimed phenomena that one "receives what you ask for".

I'm just curious if anyone has tried it and seen it work?

I'm 45. I prefer a woman in her fourties. Can't seem to find a match, though. I'm sure 50% of the problem is me...

I am an old man who dates younger women, why? Because they go out and you can meet them, they don't stay home with their cats!
I still like to jump around, play, dance, do stupid things and I put myself out there... who do I meet? I am lucky if there is a 30 yr old there ... usually 20 somethings are all you see. I would love to meet someone in their 40's and even 50's where are they????!!!