1. no expectations
2. no moping
3. no singularly focusing on one person
4. no expectations
5. no expectations
6. no expectations

1, 4, 5 and 6 are very important here
singularly focusing on one person, object makes us blind to soooooo many other possibilities
i've also found that moping rarely helps

Gawd, I'm no virgin burner. I've been going since 1997 but I made that mistake last year and, while it didn't ruin my burn, it was the only negative element of it. No one to blame but myself. The thing is that the same woman I allowed to mess with my head last year tried to do it again this year. No way was I going to let it happen again.

The fact is that I met so many wonderful women this year. There was no playa romance but so what? They were all very cool and it was really great to meet them and get to know them a little bit and, who knows what the future will bring? Burning Man for me is about making connections with anyone and everyone I get a chance to. Serendipity may lead to a romance but if it doesn't, I've still connected with very cool people and it was a great pleasure to connect with them all. That's what I love about Burning Man.

Love yourself and you never cuddle alone. That attracts others. Its contagious.

Just before the burn, "OhTony" posted this most excellent advise;

burningsingles.tribe.net/threa...11fcbe

My burn was great in some ways not so great in others... I got stood up SEVEN times SEVEN TIMES!!! Which I thought was pretty horrible, until one of my buddies came over, looked at me and said DAMN DUDE at least YOU hooked-up with seven different women! So I guess it became a pretty good burn after that. However I will say this the energy level this year was bizarre and I never got overwhelming sense of community I had last year, I hope next year brings that back cause I really missed it this year.

Us singles definitely have a different experience at the burn. We want someone to share the happy times with so much that we often forget that we actually happen to be enjoying ourselves on our own. The way I figure it - we will find the one perfect to share our moments with when they fit the moment perfectly. Sometimes they are the people of the moment, a cuddle buddy or kissing buddy of the evening, but when the time is right - we'll find one to spend more than just the passing moment with. I just try and relish in the fact that I at least have a special moment or two at the burn (or another event to follow), only building up to the moments that never end :)

YOU MAKE LOVE TO THE STARS

LOVE IS NOT SEX, LOVE CAN BE WITHIN SEX, LOVE CAN BE WITHOUT SEX
LOVE IS ART, LOVE IS DANCING, LOVE IS SLEEPING ALONE ON A HILL TOP WHILE THE SOUNDS OF BURNING LOVE RAGE ON BELOW AND
LOVE CAN BE WAKING UP IN THE MORNING AND A PRECIOUS AND BEAUTIFUL COUPLE SAY PEACE TO YOU WITH ALL THEIR HEART
LOVE CAN BE CLIMBING GIANT METAL MONSTROSITIES OF MAGNIFICENT ART
LOVE CAN BE THE RIDE TO BM AND THE 1 MILLION LAUGHS GETTING THERE
LOVE CAN BE FINDING AN UNBELIEVABLY BEAUTIFUL SILVER CHARM OF THE UNIVERSE AND THE ACTUAL SYNCHRONICITY OF FINDING THE GIRL IT BELONGED TO

MAINLY WHAT YOU ASK AND IN THE WAY YOU ASK HURTS ME DEEP DOWN WERE LOVE HAS GROWN FROM BM
LOVE OF BURNING MAN

LOVE IS NOT THE LOVE OF THIS WORLD, OF ITS BAR FLY'S AND QUICK FUCKS, IT’S VICIOUS HEARTS
OF its POLITICAL POLLED SCHOOL BORNE CHILDREN GROWN ONLY TO
CONCUR IF MALE, AND TO BE CONCURRED IF FEMALE...

GO TO A HIPPIE CONCERT AND BRING LOTS OF DRUGS SO YOU CAN DRUG HER OUT/SEDUCE HER ANY TIME YOU WANT

BUT DON’T YOU SPOIL TRUE LOVE AT BURNING MAN

Just one burners view that went to the first burn on Ocean Beach and really does believe!